Of course, several internal and external factors could play a role in why you may feel like your partner is settling for you. If we are honest, there isn't a perfect relationship out there, and they all require some form of effort. We all have seasons in our relationships that feel dull, stressful, or chaotic, but when you are genuinely in love, and the connection is real those seasons are short. One good day with your partner can make the extra effort feel worth it. A person who is putting on a show will eventually work themselves into exhaustion and get themselves to a point where they no longer have the energy to pretend, and it will become pretty obvious that their feelings for you are not real.
There are countless lessons I've learned from my mother. She showed me resilience. She taught me how to speak up for myself. She taught me to be affectionate and loving in the midst of my mess. But the most important thing I learned from my mother is that people have the ability to change, and do it radically.
It has taken me years to achieve liberation and peace. I was fed up with myself, and had to let go of the idea that my life would one day make a turn to where I thought it would be. Loving yourself starts with you. Your body isn't just merely a shell for your spirit and soul. Self-love isn't just a concept to be thrown around to capitalize off of, but it is truly taking a look in the mirror and stripping yourself of the idea that your value comes from other people and other things. It is about being sick and tired of being sick and tired and loving who you truly are, wholeheartedly ALL BY YOURSELF.