Of course, several internal and external factors could play a role in why you may feel like your partner is settling for you. If we are honest, there isn't a perfect relationship out there, and they all require some form of effort. We all have seasons in our relationships that feel dull, stressful, or chaotic, but when you are genuinely in love, and the connection is real those seasons are short. One good day with your partner can make the extra effort feel worth it. A person who is putting on a show will eventually work themselves into exhaustion and get themselves to a point where they no longer have the energy to pretend, and it will become pretty obvious that their feelings for you are not real.